So you know those times when you hear something someone says and you feel like you’ve listened and taken in what they said–only to realize later that you heard them but you didn’t really hear them until later?? (yep, run on sentence) It’s like when you find change in your pocket and you smile only to find out later that you had a few dollar bills in there too, way deep down in the crevice of your pocket. Your response then is like, “wow…I didn’t realize there was more in there” and you’re blessed again by something that was already there to begin with. That may all sound confusing, and it’s probably not the best analogy, but I hope you can relate. That’s how I’ve been feeling for weeks now since meeting and having lunch with the beautifully amazing Roshini Cope aka “Glamazini” all over the Interwebs.
See, she’s been my friend (in my head) for quite some time now. I found her channel years back somehow in YouTube World after watching the super hilarious and free soul, WhoisSugar and instantly connected to her too. Like Sugar (yes, that’s her real name), Roshini is carefree, transparent, and a real life Black Barbie…comfortable in her skin and “telling it” exactly how it is happening. And it all inspired me so much. I honestly was (yes, past tense) such a guarded person because of all that life had thrown at me and there was so much freedom for me in watching these women in “Cyberspace” being, doing, laughing, crying, sharing, and embracing themselves and their lives. It honestly gave me a longing for that same type of freedom– of embracing and loving myself.
And I did. I have– and I still am working on myself.
They could never know how much they inspired me through the years because there aren’t enough words to truly express that on an Instagram or YouTube comment. I’ve always felt that if they weren’t there for anyone else, they were certainly placed there for me.
But I digress.
So, a few weeks back, I found out Roshini was in my neck of the woods in North Carolina and I reached out to her on Instagram. (I may or may not have low key -strongly but lovingly- persuaded her to meet up with me. Lol!) Anyway, we met up at a local bistro for lunch and talked for hours. She is just as amazing, inspiring and funny in person as she is on camera. In talking about all things “life” she shared her amazing perspective on how she looks at life. (I’m not going to say it exactly as she said it, but I hope you get the point.) She said,
- You’ve got to let what you thought your life would be go. Grieve that thing or that dream and let it go because the life you have is your best life. It’s your blessing. You’re wasting precious time being stuck or limiting yourself because your life isn’t the way you imagined it to be.
- Instead, you have to be thankful and embrace the life you have and live it— no matter the situation and/or the circumstances. Live.
- Ignore the foolishness. Yes, we’re all subjected to it in various ways, times, and people. Ignore it. Move past it. Fight for your joy.
I heard that. I received that. But it seems since that day, I am being reminded of that daily.
Release stuff. Be thankful. Embrace your life. Live.
It’s not rocket science and may not seem to be the most profound when you first hear it. But when you hear it, it can change how you see and respond to everything around you. That lunch with her means more and more to me everyday. I’m not sure that she really understood how much her life impacts me (and many others). And I couldn’t articulate it even in person. I’m not sure that I am doing any better as I type this post. I guess the best way to communicate it is to be it–the best version of me that is. I can only hope that my life positively impacts others just as well.
Be sure to check her out everywhere online!